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I (a woman in her thirties) waited till I was 23 to have sex for the first time. Like you, it wasn't a religious choice. However, I have to say that once I finally had sex with someone I cared about, I was sorry that I hadn't opened myself up to other people I had been close to earlier (because I felt I had so over-thought what having sex would mean vis a vis my friendship with them, etc.). I am not one to say have sex for sex's sake, but I also think that it can be important to look at it as a way of making a deep connection with someone you care about. And it's not necessarily the only person you'll be with for your entire life. Of course, practicing safe sex is key. But that's easy enough to do...

Oh, hon. You are not the only one. It's human emotion to feel alone but I can assure you that you are not. ..
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First off, you don't need to worry about what everyone else is doing. ..
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Secondly, I think your reasons for waiting are excellent. Actually, I waited until I was 27 years old and have only had sex with one man - my now husband. In my opinion it was worth the wait, although I don't judge people for their decisions.....
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Come to my Web site, www.dirtyfilthyprincess.blogspot.com and check out my Waiting for it Wednesday feature. I've interviewed 25 people, so far, virgins and non-virgins on waiting for sex or their first time having sex...

I'm the yang to Angie's yin.....
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Wow I'd have to dig a little deeper into this one, you're not giving us nearly enough info. In part of your note you kinda want to do it , but later it sounds like you're motivated mostly thru social pressure not to be different. In another part you want to, but sound extremely concerned about diseases. As a matter at one point you make it sound like an ordeal, lol. Morality is definitely a factor...
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Relax, the world isn't falling apart, people have been having unmarried and uncommitted sex..for millions of years (marriage is a relatively new concept in the human experience) and we're still here. Actually, it's because we've been having sex for millions of years that we're still here, lol...
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The first thing you need to do is to find someone you care about deeply, I think the rest will take care of itself. Most of us would agree that sex under those circumstances is the best of all possible worlds...
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Take your time at some point desire will overtake angst...
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personally i think its too bad its not for religious reasons.. but that s ok ur reasons plus religious reasons, i waited too, and it was sooo worth it. esp. if u marry another virgin girl, because u guys dont have anyone to compare in ur mind ya know..i love it...it is a very intimate bonding type of thing, dont let anyone tell u diff. btw, i always thought it was very attractive to meet someone who is a virgin and i of course married one :]..
keep it up!..