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I'm the yin to Carlos yang .....
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Well here's the thing that concerns me with people who finally vent something as serious as this, is that it didn't just pop into their head, they didn't just wake up one day and say I'm bored, there's usually more to it and it's likely being downplayed for fear of the concequences.....
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So what do U, her friend, do about it ... I might say something like..... "u're obviously unsure and if u're unsure then u shouldn't make a move. Take the next couple of weeks to really determine how u feel and then do something about it...Life is too short to be with the "wrong" person."..Only after she's clear about what and how she's feeling, talk to her fiance...
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U might suggest she try writing in a journal to work thru her thoughts and feelings...So she's clear when she's sits with bf...
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I know It's hard as a friend to give advice especially if u think that it will cause pain, and what if u'r wrong?..But she's asking for u'r help so be kind and be Holly...
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Angi..

Frankly, I would be much more worried about the "bored with him" aspect than the fact that the sex is getting boring. Sex can be spiced up, the quality (not to mention quanitity) of sex is often reflective of the quality of the relationship -- in other words, if the lovin' is there, then the sex will follow. To be bored with one's fiance, however, seems like a big, flapping, crimson flag that maybe he isn't the right fiance for her...

Sure the sex life can always be spiced up...There are plenty of toys and moves that can be introduced to the mix...All they need is the internet at their fingertips and they can find endless amounts of possibilities for their sex life.....
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However, I do agree that the biggest issue here seems to be her getting bored with him. I mean, they have only been dating a year? And she already feels that way?..This will not be a logn lasting relationship if she can not even make it past a year without getting bored.....

In most relationships we reach a comfort level. Once we get there things seem to get a bit more boring. Once you bring marriage into a relationship,..the passion seems to drop. My advice is to tell her to try and spice it up, the internet is full of knowledge and information about mixing things up. Her husband to be might not even realize that the sex is getting boring to her...guys are easily satisfied and need a little push when it comes to spicing things up...

If you're bored with someone before you even marry them, then you're in trouble...You can fix sexual problems, but it's those other ones that are tricky...That whole compatibility thing can get in the way sometimes, so I think your friend really needs to figure out why she's bored and what she's bored of...