Obviously this has been a rocky relationship, and one which you're both struggling with. You've been at cross-purposes, both of you trying at once to protect your own heart and to give it up to this person that you love so deeply. However, there comes a point when the pain and drama of all this up-and-down, back-and-forth, yes-and-no isn't worth it anymore. Are you at that point yet? Do you want to eliminate some of the chaos from your life and find someone you can love, who loves you back, without all of the hoopla? Then let your girl go. If you really can't forget her, and are willing to lose some credibility given that you told her to leave you alone, then give it one more shot. But this time around, both of you must be deadly honest about your feelings, and not hold anything back. You must give it your all. I wish I could tell you better which path to take, but I trust you will make the right decision, and I wish you luck on either path...

Wait a second, let me get this straight: you were together with your girlfriend for 2.5 years, then she moved and you lost contact with her? And two months later you found out that she was going to marry someone else? If I'm reading that correctly, then all the back-and-forth that happened afterwards is just more piled on top of more. This doesn't sound like a very stable or healthy relationship to begin with. And you won't make it more so by changing your tune again after telling her to get out of your life. I think that was a good idea, and you should try to move on and find someone that you can have a good, healthy, adult relationship with. Someone who would keep in touch if she moved! Best wishes, and good luck...