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I've been with my boyfriend michael for almost 3 years. We've had our ups and downs. The real problems started when my dad and his dad had issues. In 2006 he broke up with me because his dad told him to. A week later he got another girlfriend. I don't know why, but she always had a problem with me, and always talked a lot of crap. This is when I started to dislike michael. 7 months after our break up I met another guy. Just when I started to like this guy (and forget about mike) michael decides to write me a message on myspace , telling me how much he loves me and misses me. I thought I loved him too. So I couldn't help but take him back. (We both convinced our families to forget about the past, and now his parents love me, and my folks love mike.)..The first week we got back together I realized I didn't love him. Since then I have been trying to break with him but he only cried and I felt bad. So I became a bitch to him, so he would leave me. But I wasn't a bitch 24/7. Only when I was frustrated. I went out to 2 parties (without him) like 2 weekends ago and got drunk. He was supposed to come to the last one with me, but his sister made it there before he did,I was at the door , so as soon as she walked in , I was surprised! I said hi to her and gave her a hug. Then I guess she texted him saying I was drinking and flirting. I swear I was NOT flirting I would never do that knowing his sister was infront of me! I was just saying hi to some friends how is that flirting?..Now my prayers are being answered. He's finally getting OUT of the picture! So why do I cry when he tells me he wants a break? Why do I cry when he says he doesn't feel the same way like he used to feel? I get mad when he says there's some one else out there for me. But why did it take me SO LONG to realize that YES I love him? I'm trying so hard to pull him back in to my grasp, but he only pushes away. When I cry he doesn't care. What should I do? I need him in my life. How can I change his mind? How can I make him fall in love with me again? How can I FIX this realationship?..
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from Holly (30-somethingfemale)
Three years is a long time. Of course you have a connection that hurts to lose. That doesn't mean you should stay together. Move on...
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from kathyartist2008 (40-somethingfemale)
Sounds like you've only had feelings for him when there were problems or when he pulls away from you. When the family was into you and he was into you... you weren't into him. Not a recipe for a successful relationship...
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from antinoz (40-somethingmale)
You are basically doing the normal human reaction of wanting something now its gone...
Believe me in time you will be stronger , see things clearer and really become aware of what you learnt from him and the relationship, this will carry you on till your next relationship which will be better because you have lived and learnt, i believe we break up because they are not the right person for us, and i hate to say it but us wasting our time pining and needing them we are ignoring the fact that Mr Right is still out there looking for us, and we are at home blubbing into icecream and checking for texts on our mobile...
Be good to yourself, say yes to invitations and give all that love you had for him back to yourself...
And enjoy your new journey!..
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from Raven (30-somethingmale)
When you had him you were "blah" and when you didn't you were devastated...I hate to say it, but you come across like so many other women: you want what you want when you want it, and when you don't want it, you don't want it...It's very selfish behavior on your part...Let him go before you cause him to have a mental breakdown...
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from hugnkiss (30-somethingfemale)
Now you want him?..
You just want him because you can't have him. And as soon as you get him back, you will find that 'oops, I really don't love him." ..
You wanted to break up with him. And he wouldn't let you. He cried. He loved you. He wanted to be with you. It's nice to be wanted...
And it is sad when someone spells it out that they don't want you. ..
There IS someone else out there. I really believe that if you find your true love, you will never have a point where you are praying that they break up with you and where you are purposely being mean to him so that he will leave you. When you're with someone you want, you'll be nice to them...
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