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I'm the yang to Angie's yin.....
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While I've heard about this unspoken rule often, I've rarely seen it applied properly. The heart wants what the heart wants, and I bet that if most of us look deep down inside ,we'd agree that an a friend's ex..is fair game in our eternal pursuit of love and happiness...
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I think as a baseline everyone agrees that no one should be interfering with an ongoing relationship, but once that relationship is done then everyone involved is fair game. Do people get hurt ? Absolutely, mostly thru onresolved issues, and coming to terms with the breakup. Does life go one. Absolutely...
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The real issue here is that your ex isn't quite over the whole thing yet, and depending on how things are between the two of you, it might be a good idea to bring a little closure to the whole process with a face to face talk...
Good Luck...
-Carlos..

There's sort of an unwritten "code of ethics" between women friends that says you never date your friend's boyfriend (or steal her husband). Now once you've broken up, it depends on the closeness of the women friends and the amount of time that has gone by. I don't know much about sorority sisters and such, so I don't know of any "rules" there...I guess the girl feel scorned and the fact that you are dating someone who is close to her just rubs salt into the wound. She'll get over it. She may hate this sorority sister for life, but...that's one of life's little casualties...

Maybe you could have waited a little longer, or seen if your ex was over the worst of the breakup, but really, you don't owe your ex that two months after the breakup. ..
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And maybe the little sister should have approached your ex about her interest in you, if they're supposed to be sisters/friends and all. Either way, the situation probably would still have resulted in your ex feeling a little burned. An unpleasant situation overall, but hopefully the ex will move on soon, and hopefully things will go well with you two. ..
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I don't think things will go so well with your ex and the little sister, though...

I think there is some sort of vague rule, but there's a big gray area you've wandered into. ..
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Some factors to help determine if you're as horrible as your ex thinks you are: ..
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* How long were you and your ex together? 8 months... long enough to be serious, but not incredibly serious; ..
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* How long did it take for you to date her friend? 2 months... reasonably quickly, but far from 2 days or 2 weeks; ..
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* How close is your ex to her friend? Sorority "sisters," but that doesn't necessarily mean much...
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So: after we crunch the numbers on this one, I don't think you've done anything wrong. ..
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Your ex is very upset because she's hurt and jealous, but that's only natural...

Ha..I don't think you did anything too heinous, but there is kind of an unwritten rule that once you date someone, you probably shouldn't start going after people that are too close to them...Of course, if your ex is fine with it, that's another story...But it sounds like she's really upset...
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I'm sure there are tons of other girls at your school who you could date -- if you want to do the right thing, you might have to bite the bullet on this one and find one of them to date...Preferably someone your ex has never met :)..