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Dating > from PrudeDude (20-somethingmale)9 answers
This one is for women & needs dire HONESTY: Have you ever used your feminity(flirting) to get something you want from a man who is smitten by your beauty or presence? It could be as simple as a small favor from a friend or getting a small bargain at a shop. I dont think I could find any woman who hasn't (unless shes Mother Teresa!). So my question is: Do you regret it, now that you look back? Do you have regret if you kind-of..exploited the man who is smitten by your beauty?..
I would greatly appreciate if any woman even agrees that she has done this. Please give me your views on how you feel about this & your arguments. Thanks...
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from GothTart (20-somethingfemale)
Oh hell yeah. I don't regret it though, because i don't think i ever got or took anything that the man (or woman sometimes too) wouldn't have freely given me. i mean, it's not like he was dead-set against giving it away and i wrested it from him with my beauty -- it's more like my feminine wiles or whatever just sped up the process a little bit, or helped convince him, kwim? I don't think any of the guys that bought me drinks, dinner, gifts, etc or did little favors for me would have regretted the gift of any of those things, so i don't regret it either. in other words, i doubt that they would feel 'exploited.' ..
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However, i also feel that we are all using our feminine- or masculine- or just plain ol' human wiles all the time, in all kinds of transactions. i think we all (or most/manyof us?) tend to flirt when we want something that another person has, whether or not anyone involved is aware of it. doing it deliberately is a little different, but not much -- maybe a bit more honest ...
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from bm9913 (20-somethingfemale)
I have definitely used my femininity to get guys to do favors and such, or even to buy more at my work and such, but I do not regret it...I mean, if a man is going to buy into something that easily just because you are a woman, that is their fault...I mean I would never use it by doing anything more than flirting but if being a little flirty can get me free drinks or something, what's the harm?..
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from kathyartist2008 (40-somethingfemale)
When I was younger, I often got free stuff (like at a restaurant or I got a smog check for free) because a guy thought I was cute - but I didn't go in there flirting hoping to score something for nothing. It was just the luck of being young, perky and a guy doing something nice for me...
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I did have this guy friend that wanted to be my boyfriend, but I only wanted friendship. Again, I was in my 20s - and I'd call him if I needed help with something and he'd drop everything to run over. I'd feel a little bit guilty - but I was young, desperate student at the time. He eventually moved on and I got a boyfriend. We're still friends and email once a year or so...
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from runningweasel (20-somethingfemale)
Never purposely "used" it. Maybe it got me places when I was little. But, man, I'm ugly as sin. Haha, nothing TO use, there...
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from anon3739 (20-somethingmale)
I would say the majority of attractive (and some non-attractive) women do this on nearly a daily basis, whether they know it or not. You can do it, and you'll get away with it, and you probably won't regret it...
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But you should know one thing: Any woman who does this is second class to a man. You want women to be considered the lesser of the two genders? Then go right ahead, because you're the cause...
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If instead you would rather promote the genders being equal, then be an honest person that works for what she gets instead of someone that basically boils down to a whore...
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