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that's really tough for me to answer - i have never been in that situation. i have had people cheat on me, but never in serious relationships where i felt i had to choose like that - in both cases it was no choice but to kick them to the curb b/c they weren't worth it. but someone i really loved? and was married to or in a LTR with? That might be a different story. I am just not sure how i'd feel. if it truly was a one-night stand, like something with zero chance of being repeated, then, yes, maybe i could forgive and move on. it's so hard to say! I think everyone should be their own judge and take it on a case by case basis -- i can't say definitively whether i'd be able to forgive or not...

I don't think so. I think there can be extenuating circumstances, or partners who would be willing to overlook a one-night stand. People make mistakes. Sometimes they keep making them over and over again, but often folks can learn from their mistakes and the consequences thereof, and never make that same mistake again. I'd hate to think that someone I loved, and had invested so much time and emotion in, would dump me without due process for one mistake or moment of extreme foolishness. And if I truly loved someone, I would probably give him a second chance, too...

I think i woudl be able to get over it...Of course it completely depends on the circumstances...Why was he tempted?..In that case it was becuase they were not having sex and I think if I were in that situation I would be able to believe it was a one night only thing...However, I do think their counseling was a huge part of why they were successful and I think it woudl be necessary for me as well...

I think most couples could get past it if this was a one-time only deal...Mistakes happen, and if the person only messed up this one time, I think I could forgive him...The hardest thing to deal with is the trust issues that are now brought up...Could you really trust the person not to do it again?..Were there circumstances (i.e. extreme intoxication, etc.) that could have affected his judgment enough that he would cheat only once?..It's not always the actual cheating that ruins the relationship, it is dealing with the aftereffects of the betrayal...If I was married to the man I'm dating now, I know that him and I could work things out, but it would take a lot of talking and thinking...

I think you can get past it, but not if you just say "mistakes happen" and try to move on...I think it's important to figure out the issues which led the person to cheat in the first place...And the cheater needs to make a promise that he/she will not do it again, and is committed to fixing whatever is wrong in the relationship...
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Also, the person who was cheated on needs to have time to explore the break in trust...Counseling is probably needed...
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I really liked that movie :)..