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from anonymous3 answersMy four best girlfriends and I get together every year around the holidays for...show more
a big party. We are all married (except for one), and our husbands and families come too, and it's just a wonderful chaotic time. The one that's not married just started dating a guy who none of the rest of us like. I mean, he skeeves us out and we avoid socializing with him/them whenever possible. But we've been talking and we would much rather he didn't come to this party. Is there a way to exclude him politely (perhaps on the grounds that he's new to the group?) or do we have to suck it up and have him?..Vote:
from 24atlovesdoor (20-somethingfemale)4 answersOkay. Complicated. Backround: I am dating a man who is the most caring, understanding,...show more
funny, sweetest man I have ever met. He also has aspergers, which I find it may or may not be an important detail. I've never been happier with anyone, or felt more safe, beautiful, and appreciated, it is also the best sex I have had. We click on every level. ..
..HOWEVER. i discovered that he has been emailing compusivly numereous girls off the internet saying he is single, they are hot, he has no one special in his life, and thinks they should hang out asap. He even was texting one. ..
..When i confronted him he explained that it was a compulsive thing he was doing and he wanted to stop and he was glad i knew now, and he had been talking to his therapist about it, blah blah, and wants to do everything he can to make it right. He is very very sorry...
..what do i do?!?!?!?!?!?!??!?!?!?!?!?!??!??!?! im so confused it hurts!..
from anonymous2 answersI have a friend who is so negative that whenever she complains about her life,...show more
it's so clear to me that she is the one causing or perpetuating a lot of her problems. She can't meet a guy and will give a hundred reasons why it's all over for her because of her age and because the only guys who want her are dorks she has nothing in common with. When I do suggest things she can try, I already know that all I'm going to get is a stream of reasons why those suggestions won't work for her. It's like she just wants to remain where she is. At this point, what do I do? I kind of want to tell her in a gentle way that she has a hand in her own fate and she is talking herself out of many opportunities. I don't want to start a fight, and I don't know if it would ever get through to her, but I also don't want to just stand by and never try to be straight with her about my perspective on her problems, and don't want to hear her keep complaining about the same things if she's never going to do anything to change them. She also refuses to consider therapy, so that's out of the question...
from electricdreams (20-somethingmale)3 answersHey.. it's me, the weirdo, with a rather atypical dilemma. See, there's...show more
this guy I love... as a dad. I'm rather scared to talk to him right now, and I don't know where I stand with him. We met through an online community for people struggling with.. difficult issues. We had a lot in common, I looked up to him, and he decided to adopt me. Not.. you know... legally.. but I was as happy as if he got the paperwork and signed it. He acted like a dad- helping me out, looking after me, giving me guidance.. but I think I was a little needy. It didn't help that a lot of our conversations were held in public chat, and I often was totally focused on him. Yeah, it was probably over the top- but I'm not used to having a dad, or being loved, so I needed to be reassured. ..
..Well, he ended up going through a rough time- and lashing out at me. He told me he couldn't take my neediness anymore and I was scaring people with my obsession for him. In a post on that forum, he said he was leaving because what he thought was a harmless relationship ended up being co-dependent- and I knew he was talking about me, and I figured some people did, too. I was really hurt... and I was scared to see him leave. I really thought we'd have no contact again and I regretted my idiotic behaviour. Fortunately, a mutual friend intervened and made him realize that I wasn't the problem- that he was upset about something else, and probably because I made him feel most vulnerable, he targetted me... He apologized and made up. Shortly after that, before I got a chance to talk to him again, I got suspended from chat for "disruptive behaviour" i.e. struggling emotionally in chat designed to help people with emotional struggles. It was fairly ridiculous. Anyway. So no contact there. I let him know about this, and we got very close to setting up something else to communicate.. but he stopped just short of giving me the "go-ahead". It's been almost a month since the incident of him pushing me away.. and I'm still unsure what to do or if it's safe to talk to him. I told him "Just because I'm quiet and distant doesn't mean I don't care" to let him know that my lack of contact with him was not due to a change in feelings.. I think we miss each other, but don't know where to go from here? I asked our mutual friend to talk to him and find out a few things, haven't heard back from her- I'm not sure if he's over the struggle that caused him to lash out before. This situation is similiar to that with my boyfriend... but I solved the problem with him due to patience and then finally assertiveness. He has had some contact with me, perhaps this is where assertiveness comes in? But I don't want to be like what upset him in the first place.. Any suggestions how to rebuild our relationship- either as friends, or as family? I am a stronger person than I was then, so I won't be so needy, but I do miss joking with him, sharing a connection, and feeling cared for.....
from anonymous4 answersMy husband and I have been having unprotected sex for about a year and a half;...show more
we aren't actively trying to get pregnant and he pulls out and it's usually not around the time I ovulate. I read somewhere that 85% of women that have unprotected sex get pregnant within a year...I was wondering if it's unusual that I haven't yet? We are in our early 20's and my periods are very regular...I just don't know whether I should suspect some fertility issues in the future as knowing earlier is always better...
from anonymous2 answersI'm a freshman in college and planning on going home for Thanksgiving, the...show more
first time I've gone home since school started. Now, right before the semester started I broke up with my girlfriend of five months. We'd been friends all through highschool and started dating spring of senior year, we decided that we didn't want to do a long-distance thing and that it wasn't really that serious. We both wanted to play the field at college too. we parted well, she actually said that it was just a senior-year fling, to have some fun at prom and during the summer before we went our separate ways. We've kept in touch over facebook and so on, but pretty casually, we've both been busy. so now i'm going home and i know she'll be home too, so should I contact her over break? I would LOVE to see her but the same situation applies, I don't want to get seriously involved. I just want to see her and see how she is and hang out. Would that be unfair or a mistake, do you think? Or could we see each other and then go our separate ways again, no harm done?..Vote:
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100%you should definitely call her, just make your intentions clear
0%no, it's better not to see each other if you don't want to start up again
from FredsFeet (40-somethingfemale)5 answersWhy would a 48 yr old man, who is in a relationship (on and off for 12 years)...show more
still act like a teenager? We are talking mowhawk, tatoos, surfer dude clothes, and his ONLY hobbies are driving his hot rod and looking at women? AND - the big question. What do I do? I really thought I loved him until I recently realized the man is a perennial 17 year old, and I am wanting more than to talk about cars and women> I mean really. What is up with that?!..
