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Marriage Questions
from anonymous1 answerI have to travel a lot for my job. It's a good job already and one that...show more
has a lot of room for promotion. I could do really well in my career but I really have to work hard, you know? Anyway, my husband is supportive of the job, BUT he hates the fact that I have to travel so much. He doesn't ever say anything straight out, but does all this passive aggressive stuff like - one time he was going to drive me to the airport, but at completely the last minute told me he had a headache and couldn't drive me, I'd have to take the subway. Well, that took me forever and I had to run through the airport lugging all my stuff and barely made it on time. Another time he did drive me to the airport, but picked a fight with me on the way, and tried to throw me out of the car (not literally, but just tryed to make me get out yk?). And he makes all these comments like, if I'm going to be away again he might have to go to the strip club, or call an escort, etc. Like it's my fault that i have to travel for my job, and I'm choosing to be away from him. Well, I am but I'm not, you know? anyway, what would you do in this situation? I've tried to talk to him and he denies that he does these passive/aggressive things, so it's kind of hard to make any headway. Any advice? Thanks for reading this!..
from anonymous1 answerI keep having these dreams...three nights running now, I've either dreamt...show more
that I was leaving my husband, or that there was a man I was getting involved with and thinking about leaving my husband for. What does this mean? I mean, is it a sign that I'm not happy in my relationship, or is it just coincidence? I thought I was relatively happy, I mean we have our problems lke everyone. But I don't have any conscious thoughts of leaving him. Help!..
from GothTart (20-somethingfemale)5 answersWomen, do you think you could ever possibly be happy in a polygamist sect, wherein...show more
you are just one of many wives to one guy? Set aside the religious aspect of it for a minute, and just the idea of living communcally with all those other women and their kids. I know people talk about getting jealous in those situations, but if you go into..it knowing there will be other women? And the way they talk about it, the camaradere of the "sister wives" and always having someone around to talk to or joke around with, it sounds kind of cozy and sweet, like one big slumber party. Do you think you could dig it?..Vote:
from jusBreathe (20-somethingfemale)4 answersI was involved with my children's father for a long time .... he cheated...show more
.... I made the decision to move out with the kids, now that the affair is over, he has been badgering me telling me that he is a changed person and he wants to get back together to salvage our relationship and be there for his children. ..
..Two years since we've "made up" I told him that I feel I have been there from day one and he needs to commit to me and get married - so I've cut off the sex period. He's iff'ing and but'ting about he has to look out for his self. Prior to him cheating we hardly had sex, I hardly initiated anything, not that I don't like sex it's just that I feel if I'm going to get down and suck a man's d!ck and go all out, I want to be savouring those moments with my husband...
..However, he doesn't want to committ to someone who doesn't give in to sex . But I try to tell him that once we are married then everything changes, I would know that we are committed to each other .... ..
..Is there a way to go around this issue?!..
from anonymous1 answerI need some advice. My husband is a great guy, and usually really good to me,...show more
but we've run into an issue. I am supposed to go away for a 4-day conference (not work-related, just something I am interested in, like a getaway) in Feb. It will be the first time I have been away from home since our kids were born (our oldest son is 6). I stay at home with 3 kids, take care of the house, AND work part-time online. So I really, really need a break! When I first asked my husband if he could watch the kids, and help pay for the trip, he said OK and seemed really supportive of my going. But then I booked hte ticket and registration for the conferences (both of which are nonrefundable, BTW) and now he's singing a different tune. he hasn't said anything directly about it, but has made a bunch of little comments, like, about how hard it will be for him to deal w/three kids by himself (cause it's a walk in the park for ME, right?), how he won't be able to buy me a Christmas present b/c he spent all that money on my tickets etc. I can already tell that even though he paid for the conference, I'm going to be PAYING for the conference, kwim? He's gonna guilt me until I go, and afterwartds, and I am afraid it's not even gonna be worth it for me to go and have fun for a few days. I've tried talking to him about this, but he just says, "Oh, no, you misunderstood me, I really know how badly you need to have a vacation, we'll be fine," etc. but then these little snide comments keep slipping out. Am I being too sensitive? Is there anything I can do to resolve this? Please help!..
from anonymous2 answersMy husband will never apologize to me. He's generally a pretty sweet and...show more
thoughtful guy, but on the rare occasions when he loses his temper or does something wrong, he will not apologize afterwards. I can tell he's sorry - he seems sorry, he does nice things to make up for it, but he won't actually come out and say the words "I'm sorry for X." It seems like a strange little quirk. Is this a problem or should I just let it go and listen to his actions, not hs (lack of) words?..
from anonymous5 answersTell me if this is out of line: my husband is going through an extremely busy...show more
and stressful period at work. I made us a dinner of one of my favorite recipes that lends itself well to portable leftovers, so he could take them to work all week and not have to grab junky stuff when he got a spare moment. I was asleep when he ate it so I asked what he thought and he said it was okay. I pursued this, because I'd thought it was great, and he complained it didn't have enough cheese. I explained well we're trying to lose weight, plus I used exactly as much as the recipe called for anyway. What I'm miffed about is his lack of acknowledgment of the effort and thought I went to with this, and let me say this is nothing unusual for him. It just gets to me. He's not always this busy and stressed so I know this period is temporary, but I don't think the lack of acknowledgment is temporary at all. I have brought it up on numerous occasions and nothing ever changes. In fact on the rare occasion he does offer a compliment I am typically shocked...I don't know what else to do. Should I ask someone else to intervene on my behalf?..
from anonymous4 answersI am dreading going to my inlaws' house for Thanksgiving. We have to go,...show more
because we alternate holidays and it's their turn. But they really don't like me, I can tell. They always treat me like I'm not good enough for their son even though we've been married for five years. They are really patronizing to me - like my MIL doesn't offer me a glass of wine at dinner even though everyone else has one, like I'm a child or something (I'm 29 years old!). Does anyone have any advice for me? I really, really am dreading this...
from anonymous3 answersI'm married with two little kids. I don't go out much, but about once...show more
every couple of months one friend of mine and I go out for beers. we go after my kids are asleep, so it's easy for my husband to watch them. Still, every time I go out he finds some excuse to get pissed off at me - I stay out too late (11 pm?!) or I make too much noise when I come home, or whatever. at first I was really sorry and ashamed and felt bad, but I am starting to see a trend here and starting to see that some of his complaints are ridiculous. I mean, I don't go out and get crazy drunk - I go to a little pub on the corner and drink three pints with my friend. But my husband just seems to be threatened whenever I have a little bit of fun. Any advice?..
from anonymous5 answersMy boyfriend proposed to me at Valentine's day. At the time he was not making...show more
a lot of money and he got a ring with a cubic zirconium in it, saying that he's replace it with a real diamond "soon." I figured it was the though that counted, etc. But now it's half a year later ,he's gotten a raise, and still no diamond. i wear the ring and I'm happy to be engaged but I can't help thinking that he should go get the stone replaced. I feel like if he doesn't do it now, it'll get pushed off and pushed off and there will always be somtehing else "more important" to pay for or buy. Is this shallow of me? should I bring it up?..Vote:
