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Marriage Questions
from anonymous2 answersMy Fiance and I have two kids together but we are not married (obviously, or...show more
I'd say my Husband!! LOL). It seems like every Christmas card we got this year (from aunts, uncles, etc.) said, "Mr John Jones and family"..which I find very rude. I mean, I am more than just "and family" and so are my kids. Can't these people take the time to find out MY name and address it to all of us, or at least put "the Jones/Smith Family"? Am I being too sensitive? Or is this something that would bug you too?..
from anonymous2 answersA hypothetical question: if you were bisexual, and yet you were involved with...show more
a person of the opposite sex in a LTR or marriage, and your husband or wife or spouse offered you the opportunity to have a girl or boy "on the side" would you take them up on it? I guess in a way what I am asking is do you think that sleeping with a same sex partner when you are in a heterosexual relationship is cheating? or is it just as emotionally dangerous (or more so) than having a hetero affair?..Vote:
from anonymous1 answerOMG. I am supposed tot be getting married in the spring, but we are having such...show more
a tough time planning the wedding that we are about ready to elope. It seems like everyone has an opinion or a demand about how we should do things. between four sets of families (his mom and stepdad, his dad and step mom, my dad and stepmom, my mom and her partner) they all have different ideas. Some of them are things we can blow off, but others are wishes that we would like to accomodate if possible, but so many of them conflict. For example, the church. They have three different churches between them, and we don't really go to any church. So which one do we pick to get married in? It seems like we are not going to be able to please anyone, let alone everyone. Short of actually eloping (which we aren't really seriously considering), what do we do?..
from anonymous1 answerHi! I was wondering if anyone here has some suggestions on romantic, but frugal,...show more
presents for Christmas. We are newlyweds and we're broke! LOL! I stay at home with my son who's 6 months old, so I don't have any income. My husband will give me some money for Christmas shopping, but I'd like to surprise him with some special gifts since it's our first year as husband and wife at christmas. Any ideas?..
from anonymous2 answershey y'all, my fiance and i are getting married in the spring and we can't...show more
agree on what name I'll use. He wants me to take his name, but I don't, I would rather keep my maiden name for a couple of reasons, mostly because it's a really easy, common name and his is hard to pronounce and spell. For that same reason I don't want to hypenate either. Would it be totally weird to make up a new name altogether, or get him to switch to my name? Any other ideas?..
from anonymous2 answershi all, i have something troubling me deeply. about 5 months ago my husband...show more
and my brothers had a huge falling out...there is hurt on both ends and has nothing to do with me...but it hurts me so deeply that i don't see any time soon that they can be together in the same room...in a nutshell this is what happened...my husband was asked how he planned to vote, we had all planned on not discussing politics because things always got heated but my brother asked my husband anyway...So my husband started to talk calmly and answer the question, till after a bit my other brother came to the table and demanded taht the talk stop that he (my husband) should just be nice and that the 4th of juliy was no time to start bashing our country...i wasn't there so i don't know the extent of it...when we arrived home my husband wrote a nasty email after i asked him not to, and the email was clearly from anger so if there was to be any mending it seems this communication stopped that from ever happening...now where am i and what am i to do. friends tell me I should put my immediate family first and not worry about my brothers...but they are part of my family and now i feel they are separate from me...and do i just need to accept that there will be no further get togethers with my family unless my husband is not with me?..not sure how to deal with this...i saw a therapist and she told me to just tell him that i need him to fix it and i know he'll do the right thing...I said it to him just to try it thought I knew it didn't sound like a solution...he listened but was not ready to contact my brothers and make peace and i don't think he ever will really...I also am not too optimistic about my brothers contacting him though i think they should.....
..this is really bothering me....and such a touch subject that i am afraid to bring it up and open the wound...i know we need to get past this...we have 2 kids by the way and i want to have family get togethers so they can know and love thier uncles...guess i could go by myself but that really bumms me out...
from anonymous2 answersI'd like some input on a disagreement my husband and I are having. Here's...show more
the story: a couple of years ago he had a falling out with his sister. since then, Christmas has been awkward. We don't get together with them (never did, they live too far away) and don't buy presents for each other, but each family gets things for the other's kids. So two years ago my hubby followed tradition even though he and his sister had just had that big fight, and bought magazine subscriptions for each of her three kids...spent a long time picking them out according to the kids' hobbies, age level, etc, and spent about $60-70 total. They sent us nothing, and he never got any kind of acknowledegement or thank-you from the kids (who were 13, 11 and 8 at the time, plenty old enough to either write a note or at least an email). So last year we sent a fruit basket to the whole family, and my sister in law sent our kids a toy that was entirely age-unappropriate and also completely contrary to our parenting style. I promptly donated it to a toy drive, but wrote her a thank you note nonetheless. OK, this year comes around. Their family has moved, and she sent my father in law an email with her new address, and specified in the email NOT to share it w/the family (which really meant us, of course), that she would let everyone know their address that they wanted to know. My FIL is an idiot and didn't read the email but just forwarded it around anyway, so we have their address and the knowledge that they didn't want us to have it. So what do we do this year? My hubby says we should send them a nice Christmas present, to the whole family, like a GC to a restaurant. I say we should send them nothing, and save our money or spend it on someone who would appreciate it. I think that not wanting us to have their address is a pretty pointed message; he says that we should send something in spite of that, and not stoop to their level. What do you all think? FWIW, they have tons of money and we are really poor, so it'd be a bit of a stretch to buy them something - those mag subscriptions really took a chunk out of our budget. I know it's not about the money, but the principle of it, but still, a $50 GC would be nothing to them, but the loss of the money would mean a lot to us, kwim?..Vote:
