from franciscofran (30-somethingmale)3 answershey guys - bit of a weird one here.i met this girl through an internet dating...show more
site and we texted on off for about a month until we went out....then we met and really hit it off.there was no awkwardness and it felt natural.kissed but that was about it...then we met up again and had another great night...basically then we met up a 3rd time and she stayed over with me and we did the usual....everything seemed to be ticking along nicely. ..until the other week she said she couldnt see me that weekend as she had some personal stuff to sort out.(i think there is an ex boyfriend trying to get back with her) so i said fine but she kept texting on and off..i have given her a week and every time i suggest meeting up the trail goes cold and she wont say. Thing is i do like her and she says she likes me too...so my question is: ..Which of the following do you reckon i should do?..Vote:
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18%be patient and give her more time...play it cool
73%ask her straight out what is going on
9%forget about her and tell her i dont need this strife
from electricdreams (20-somethingmale)4 answersI have been dumped, and the whole thing is incredibly confusing. Both him and...show more
I have a history of being abused, and he is still in an abusive home. I bring this up because I think it explains his behaviour. He has always been sweet, loving, and supportive. He has seen the worst of me and it hasn't changed how he feels about me. However, when he is hurting, he has a tendency to hide. A..couple weeks ago, he was attacked for being gay. After he got out of the hospital, he seemed happy to see me, though subdued. He didn't contact me for two weeks- and I didn't initiate contact, because I was afraid of being disappointed by him not responding to me. When I saw him on a website we both use, I contacted him to let him know I was thinking of him, and to talk to me when he was ready. He contacted me the next day to let me know he loved me, but was hurting greatly and trying to recover. I felt encouraged by this- at least we'd talk again! But when we did talk.. he said we couldn't date anymore... because he was nothing but trouble for me... he said he loved me too much and I was going to get hurt. ..
..Well, I told him that I thought he was being rash, and that I was prepared for what it'd take to be with him. He wanted to be friends, and would see where it went. I made the mistake of telling him I loved him and still saw him as a boyfriend. He then said he was sorry, but he could never contact me again. He wished me luck and left.....
..I think this is a result of what he's struggling with and we could be together again eventually- still, I'm really afraid he means it about never contacting me again. I sent him a casual message saying he could talk to me if he was ready- no pressure, no expectations. No response. He keeps going on a site that we both use, and he's said in the past he goes there when he can't talk but he wants to be reminded of me. He also keeps signing on his IM program, but not contacting me. I am afraid to contact him more in case I drive him away. But I feel like if I can say the right thing, or wait, he might contact me again. I believe he is a good person, but dealing with a lot right now. Any advice?..
from anonymous4 answersMy boyfriend just told me that he wants to quote unquote take a break from our...show more
relationship, in order to sort out some things. says he's not seeing anyone else and won't be dating, just wants to be single for a while. he said that when he gets it together again he'll call me. what do you think, is this a load of crap? should i wait for him?..Vote:
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43%it's a load of crap, don't wait
0%if you love him you should wait
57%date other people in the meantime but keep your options open
from anonymous5 answersMy boyfriend just told me that he wants to take our relationship to being nonmonogamous....show more
That is, he wants to see other people but he still wants to date me, too. What should I do? I really love him and would hate to give him up, even if that means sharing him.Of course I could date other guys too...
from anonymous3 answersTwo weeks ago, I came out of a LTR which had lasted 2 and a half years. I had...show more
known for about a year that something was not quite right, and for the last 6 months that it was coming to an end and that the passion was dead. However, I didn't have to deal with it as I was living over 200 miles away. Ironically, when I moved back closer to my boyfriend, we ended our relationship mutually as it no longer felt right...He still wants to be friends, which is fine by me, but I have already had to tell him several times not to call me 'sweetie' and to stop touching me ie. his hand on my leg. It is difficult for both of us I know, because we went out for so long and we are used to being together, but he doesn't seem to understand that we need a little bit of space initially to get used to not being a couple...Now...my real question is about a different guy, someone who I have been friends with (and who I had a crush on) for about a year and a half. Just before I was about to break up with my boyfriend, he admitted that he had feelings for me. This didn't affect my decision (ie. I didn't hurry up the process to be with him)...However, I feel this guy is really special. With my last boyfriend there was no chemistry, and this guy makes me feel happy just being around. I really don't feel like I'm on the rebound as my last relationship was so lifeless...but I don't want to ruin things by rushing into another relationship, no matter how different it is. The problem is that we slept together a few days ago, and even though I KNOW it was very soon after my breakup it felt very right to do so. He asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes, but I am keeping it quiet as I don't think it's fair on my ex (who may assume I left him for this guy, which I haven't). My new guy lives just over an hour's drive away, so we won't be seeing each other that often compared to my ex (who lives very close by)...
..Should I be feeling so guilty because I am so happy, so soon after leaving my ex? Should I ask my new guy to slow it down a bit? I don't FEEL like this is a rebound relationship, I feel like it will work, but what do you guys think?..
from anonymous4 answersI recently had a lengthy IM conversation with this woman I met online through...show more
a dating site. It all seemed to go well until she never ended up contacting me again. I emailed her twice at the personal address she gave me and once via the site we met through. No word. I feel like I've been dumped by a (virtual) date. Is it normal to be taking it so hard?..Vote:
