from cutiepatootie (teenfemale)4 answersSo i dated this guy for 3 months, not in a relationship. It bothered me so I...show more
asked him about it. He said well im going to ask you out soon, he never did.. He was kind of flaky when we made plans he would sometimes blow them off but not a lot a lot But he was always so sweet when we did and funny. He would take me around his friends too and show affection. I never had sex with him either so that's not the case here. Well anyway we where suppose to hang out one night.. but he flaked off and never said sorry i couldn't hang out today or anything but i was looking at his comments and some girl said "hey sorry, i can't hang out tonight with you guys.. i have to clean" or something like that. And well he logged into AIM at 3:00 AM in the morning.. and said hey i have something to tell you which you probably won't like.. Then he said "Now's not a good time for me to have a girlfriend.."..This is after the weekend I almost lost my virginity too him.. but he said no, I dont want you to loose it like this..I want your first time to be special (we where both drunk) So then after all that, he still talks to me sometimes.. He randomly Instant messages me maybe 3 times a week.. at most.. ..But sometimes he is a straight up jerk when he talks to me.. Like today he instant messaged me saying "What is up with your picture" and..I said what are you talking about.. he said "no offense but the weird looking one" and then he said "im just watching out for you.."..I don't get it? He's confusing.. help me out here.. what does this sound like to you?..
from anonymous9 answersOK, I know I am going to get totally flamed for this, but here goes anyway. If...show more
it matters, I am genuinely curious and not just looking to justify some bad behavior...so...I wonder what the big deal is about so called cheating. Human beings are not made, biologically speaking, to be monogamous. Men were intended to procreate with as many females as possible in order to ensure the continuation of their genes. Women are engineered to get pregnant as often as possible for the same reason, regardless of whether a man has a great sense of humor or loves animals or whatever, right? So, if there is no emotional attachment to the person you're cheating with, and your primary relationship is stable and happy, what's the harm in the occasional dalliance with someone else? Let me put iit another way - has anyone here ever "successfully" cheated, and by successfully I mean, not w/o your partner finding out, but just gone and slept with someone else w/o emotional entanglements, or guilt, or any other weirdness, just had a good time and then gone back to the relationship as planned, and everything was OK? There is such a taboo against cheating - it's the worst thing you can do, blah blah blah, but sooo many people do it anyway and it's sort of tacitly condoned. As a society we have such a mixed message about cheating, and such a confused attitude. Can we talk about this without blame or flaming, just an honest discussion? Thanks...
from anonymous5 answersMy husband is a wonderful man, but lately he's gotten really distant, especially...show more
when it comes to sex and physical contact. He shows his love in lots of ways - thoughtful gestures, kindness, just telling me he loves me - but he almost never initiates sex anymore, and most of htem time when I initiate he makes an excuse. Lately he's even started to recoil from my nonsexual touches - if I try to hug him or put my hand on his knee when he's driving, etc. I don't think he's cheating on me, because he is so kind and loving otherwise. What do you think could be going on? Any advice? FWIW we've been married for about six years, and I know it sounds like I'm overcompensating, but it really has been a happy marraige until recently...
from anonymous6 answersI'm getting married in october and my fiance is having a bachelor party...show more
the week before the wedding, his brother and some buddies are taking him to a strip club. now I know that this is tradition and all, and I know that they're gonna get him drunk and have lap dances for him and stuff, but i have this unnatural feat that he's gonna go home with one of the strippers. I don't know why exactly, but I am n a panic about it. i know that the point-to have one last fling, right? -but I really don't want him to do anything like that. so two questions, is it weird for me to be so paranoid about this? and is it cool to ask his brother to help my fiance behave himself? or not?..
from Teegs512 (20-somethingfemale)3 answersBefore i met my boyfriend, he worked with a girl and they both liked eachother....show more
But then she moved to a place about 3 hours away from where he lives and so they havent seen each other much...
..Since then, my boyfriend and I started going out and i was always a little worried because they talked so much, through texts and stuff. And i know for a fact that she still likes him...I brought this up with him one day, i told him that i thought that if she still lived here then he would rather be with her than me. But he assured me that he only likes her as a friend..
..Im going away for about a week, and during this time she is coming up to where we live and they have made plans to see eachother at least a few times. Im so worried! I dont think that he would cheat on me, but he used to like her... and she still likes him! Im worried that she is going to make a move on him, and for some reason i would be angry with him if she did??..
..I dont know whether i should just forget about it and let it happen, because i dont want to seem controlling. But i dont want to risk her making a move on him...
..What should i do?..Vote:
from anonymous2 answersI was introduced to the wife of a man I know through work. Then, a few months...show more
later, I ended up at the same restaurant as him and a woman who was clearly not his wife but with whom he was evidently intimate -- couldn't keep his hands off, etc. I tried not to be seen but know he saw me when he left the restaurant. Unfortunately, we even made eye contact. Now, I'm meant to meet with him for work and I worry that he's going to bring the whole business up. How's it best to play it?..Vote:
from anonymous6 answersA married man who I work with made a pass at me the other day. i don't...show more
know his wife (I think we met once) but should I tell her that he's trying to stray? FTR I did tell the guy I wasn't interested b/c he was married, but that was it. He didn't ask me not to tell his wife or anything. I do think they are pretty unhappy in the marriage, but is it my business to let her know or not?..Vote:
from beemis (20-somethingmale)5 answersSo, i've been with my 'girlfriend' on and off for 2 something...show more
years, and officially dating for about 10 months or so. She's occasionally immature, and sometimes will try and turn arguments around and be completely ignorant to the fact that, in some cases, she's the one at fault. Then, one of those arguments threw her over the edge (long story short i was supposed to assume what she meant by something, rather than her actually tell me straight up). And we broke up. Now we're kind of seeing each other, just not dating. Starting from the top, if you will. ..
..Now then, randomly, i hear from my friends girlfriend, who has no friendship/hate status with my ex- say that she was downtown holding hands with some dude- which she saw from her work window. I confronted my ex, she denied. Wasn't really enough proof to get mad...
..Then, a completely separate occasion, and a completely separate person who has no contact with the first (somewhat close friend of mine), said that right before they saw each other in the mall, she was holding some guys hand again, for a split second, before she dropped it and said hi...
..My 'ex' and the second girl are giving me completely different stories. I've known my ex for 2 something years, and i've always thought/ known she wouldn't do something like that. Whereas, the other girl, sometimes likes drama. It's just a little fishy how it was the same story from two completely different people...
..It's not that i care if she's dating some guy, per se. It's that she's "having her cake and eating it" too, not to mention on top of that, lying to my face. ..
..If anyone has any suggestions on what to do, where to go from here, how to figure this all out, that would be awesome...Thanks!..
from dorotea (20-somethingfemale)5 answersI am very much in love with my boyfriend of two years. However, I think I have...show more
developed a crush on a friend from work. I still love my boyfriend and have never stopped, though. Is this a form of cheating? Has this ever happened to anyone else?..
