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See, there is this boy...i've known him (not friends with him, but we have gone to school with each other and such) for about 4 years. i hadn't really liked him because he was quite rude to me a while back, but recently i've noticed he is a bit different. i was volunteered to be a part of a play that he had written, he didn't seem to like me, but accepted me anyway. after a while he started being a lot different with me, almost like he wanted to be my friend. i was sort of shocked. -go figure, he also looks a lot better than he did before. ..
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one of my best friends is currently in a (different) play with him. she was cast as the lead, and he was her "servant" they are spending a lot of time together, and it's driving me crazy. she has told me that she likes him, but i haven't told her that i like him too. and to top that all off, he is going to be leaving for college soon, so if anything is going to happen between them, it will be in the very close future. ..
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so basically, the question is:..
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we like the same guy, it seems like he may like my friend, but then again it seems like he might like me aswell. time is limited, but i am afraid. he is older than me, and he does have a track record...and i'm feeling a bit less than desirable. i feel like i'm extra chubby, awkward, and rude near him. >.<..
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from lookuponmyworks (teenmale)
What was the question? I can't see one! If the question is "should I go for him", my answer is things don't look like they're going to last long, and it would cause strife. Plenty more fish in the sea....
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from bm9913 (20-somethingfemale)
Well I think the most important thing here is the relationship with your best friend...I think before you try to go anywhere with the guy, you need to tell your best friend how you..are feeling...The two of you should..decided what to do about this...If you two are best friends, it would probably be best if you both backed off him, especially because he is going off to school anyways...
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However, if either of you feel so strongly about this guy that you can't back off, then you should respect each other's feelings and allow each other to be happy...
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from rosey (teenfemale)
honestly. what i'm getting is that you like him, but your friend also likes him. as it was said above, as long as your attraction is pure, i think you're okay. -because your friend likes him too, you need to be careful. try to get some info from her. see how much she really likes him, then size it all up. -but before you do anything hasty, try to see if he has feelings for you, or your friend. -or perhaps it's neither of you? (that isn't meant to sound rude, just trying to cover all the bases.) feel things out before you do anything...
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from wonderguy (20-somethingmale)
there's not exactly a question here, but I guess the question is: What should you do about this guy?..
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one thing I'm wondering: Would you like this guy if it weren't for the fact that he's getting close with your friend? Or does he look a lot better to you than he did before because you realize your friend is attracted to him?..
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But assuming your attraction to him is pure -- i.e...not triggered by his involvement with your friend -- then I guess you have to figure out how to handle it with the guy, and how to handle it with your friend. ..
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Handling it with the guy is the easy part: you find some way to hang out with him, ask him if he wants to meet you sometime for a drink or coffee, and see what happens. ..
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But I think handling it with your friend is the harder part. She confided in you that she likes him, so she'll be upset that now you've decided to go after the same guy. ..
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I'm stumped. So I'll leave it to wiser people here: How should this writer handle it with her best friend??..
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from anonymous (teenfemale)
Look if time is limited then just tell him you like him! Beat your friend to the punch! It's her fault if she doesn't take initiative, but you can. The worst he can say is that he doesn't like you in that way, and even then if he's leaving for college soon then you wouldn't have much time with him anyways...
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